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Pink for Tink: 20-year old video game boys support Trish’s fight against breast cancer.

Posted by on May 8, 2010
Tinkerhell at her computer
Trish and I are avid video gamers. I’ve been playing video games for decades, Trish is a more recent fan. For the past year we’ve played Warhammer Online, a PvP MMO (Player vs. Player, massively multi-player online game.)

MMO games have lots of group activities and people play together for a long time because it takes months (sometimes years) to fully develop your online character. PvP means you fight (mostly) against other players who tend to be smarter, or at least less predictable, than playing against the computer.

Mortadella is PinkforTink
The result is a very large community of people who know each other in varying degrees. Many of them we know intimately as ‘real’ people. Most we know just as avatar names.

Trisha and I go by different versions of Tink and Mort (Tinkerhell, Tinkehellion, Tinkerhellyeah, Mortrisha, Mortadella, Mortgasm) The game itself is just ok, but we we play because we’ve become a part of that community.

Tinkerhell (Trish’s main character) really leaned on the community when she left her job last fall. It took the place of the office water-cooler chat and gave her someone other than me to talk to. (I don’t know why she would need or want someone other than me to talk to, but she says it’s important, so I humor her.)

If you know Trish at all, you know she is charismatic in a subtle way.   She is always surrounded by people, but is never the center of attention.   Trish took to the online gaming world easily, and in the process became a damn good player and teammate.

Don’t think that everyone is nice online. The Interweb provides a cover of anonymity that encourages behavior we wouldn’t accept in real life. And the majority of the game-players are 15-25 males that put a lot of youthful energy and emotion into the game. There is relentless competitiveness, bragging, and nerd-rage. There is also a lot of young-boy sensitivity, insecurity and douch-baggery.

Jokes tend to be crude, and topics quickly shift to sex. Girls are welcome, cherished, even loved, but they get (mostly) the same treatment as the boys. Trish, very tough and always crude, fits in perfectly.

Pink for Tink helps Trish cope

Seeing Trish come out of the mammogram room crying is one of those moments in life that is permanently impressed in my memory. Cancer for the second time is less shocking, but more heartbreaking, especially after she passed the 5-year mark that was supposed to signal ‘all-clear.’

Tink, the queen, with perfect posture (and a tiny sneer.)  I love this photo.
Still, we are also better prepared having gone through it once. Trish knew, from the first episode of cancer, that being strong doesn’t mean being silent. She didn’t tell people much last time, and her support network was relatively small.

It’s understandable. Do you know how freaking hard it is to reach out and tell people you have cancer? It’s such a heavy and they don’t expect it. And if you are self-reliant like Trisha, you don’t want to ‘burden’ people.

So this time I did it. I called every parent, relative and close friend to let them know she had cancer and needed their support. Trish cried at the outpouring of love from her close friends and family. Within minutes she got calls. Facebook was so filled with messages she couldn’t keep up. And the next morning, I told our gamer friends online in a post on the forum boards.

The original post online.

My intent was just to let a few of our gamer friends know that we would be playing sporadically, and to get a few well-wishes from our close associates. Boy were we both in for a surprise. By mid-day the number of responses from people was over a two hundred, with a thousand views. The tone was supportive and caring, not what one would expect from the hardcore gamer demographic. Here are a few sample posts.

Tink support #1
Tink Support #2
Tink support #3

And it grew beyond that. Our buddy Sparkkee had the idea to dye his armor pink, and I called it ‘Pink for Tink’. It caught on, like a virus. By the next day hundreds of people were walking around in-game wearing (often ridiculous looking) pink armor for Trish.

Pinkfortink's in Altdorf
Friends Pong and Kerbear were handing out the dye for free and sending the messages across the whole server. (We have over 100 screenshots of people doing it, but there must have been five times that number)
Pink for Tink Guild.  The Guild masters Title is PinkForTink!
A whole new guild was created called ‘Pink for Tink’ and it got 50 members in 24 hours. Everytime Tinkerhell would log on, she would see dozens of people wearing the ‘PinkforTink’ in Pink armor.

Even more amazingly, the opposing side (remember it’s a PvP game where we fight each other) started dying their armor pink and naming themselves ‘Pink for Tink’ too!

By this point, Trish would burst into tears every time she logged on to play the game. One sort of expects close friends and family to express support, but to have strangers (including your ‘enemies’) stand behind you in solidarity is touching in a very different way.

Pink for Tink in the Inevitable City

Folks suggested that we take a group photo, which seems easy enough. But getting a bunch of ADD, stoned gamers that drink too much coffee and Redbull to organize and do something together at the same time is an impossible feat. And how could we ever get both sides together peacefully? It was worth a try, so I put out the announcement all day on the boards and in-game.  Our guild Silent Reign, took a group photo and that took an hour in itself!

I tried to lower Tink’s expectations because I didn’t think more than a few would show up.   And even if a group did show up, the most likely outcome would be they kill each other before we could take the picture.

So many PinkforTinks
Boy was I in for a surprise. At first it was just a few of our closest friends. But people kept trickling in until there were over 200 people, all in Pink armor named ‘PinkforTink.’ And they kept their twitchy fingers off the kill triggers for 30 minutes while everyone gathered. Some of these folks are sworn enemies that kill each other on a daily basis.

The tension grew as we tried to get Tinkerhell to the spot (she was late.) People were moving around menacingly, and there were a few ‘accidental’ deaths. But the temporary truce, in support of Tinkerhell’s fight against breast cancer, held long enough to get a picture. They even waited until she gave the signal to fight!

And it was a hilarious fight. Spells, explosions, and bombs burst everywhere in mass (virtual) carnage. Destruction won, but everyone had a blast.

It was really healthy for the server to unite, albeit briefly, in support of one of it’s own. Online communities are fragile without the face-to-face contact that glues traditional groups. The Badlands community isn’t typical.  People posted you-tube video of the event like this and this.  Pong featured the Pink for Tink event in his hilarious newsletter.  In 10 years of online gaming, I’ve never seen anything like this happen.

Tink bursts into tears.

And it meant a ton to Tink. She was still reeling from the news, and the huge show of support helped her get through the terrible week. Tinkerhell and Mort send appreciation and gratitude to our friends and enemies on Badlands.

/respect

For the truly curious, there are some great tidbits of stuff here in the destro region chat during the event.

Event chat #1 Event chat #2 Event chat #3 Event Chat # 4 Event Chat #5 Event Chat #6 Event Chat #7 Event Chat # 8 Event Chat # 9 Event Chat # 10 Event Chat #11 Event Chat # 12 Event Chat #13 Event Chat #14

27 Responses to Pink for Tink: 20-year old video game boys support Trish’s fight against breast cancer.

  1. Jack H

    Good friends trump bad cells every time! (Damn, I swore I’d never use that man’s name again.)

  2. Julliann

    It was great to see this blog. I wish you all the best and I look forward to seeing both of you out there!!

    Despite the actions of a few individuals, these games give us the opportunity to cross vast distances, time zones and cultures to enjoy each other. Keep fighting the good fight, and we’ll keep the positive thoughts coming.

    Julliann rr80 Sorc
    Vayjon rr62 Dok

  3. Mikes

    just stopping by to say <3

  4. Mikes

    this is furg btw

  5. Mandy

    Good luck! Sending many positive, healing thoughts your way <3

  6. Mike B

    I have family who have battled different kinds of cancer. Through positive attitude and family support they have beaten or are beating the disease. Keep your chin up and energy positive and you will get through this. It was awesome to see the WAR community come together over this! Best of luck to you and yours. Sincerely, Mike B (Frotharrard,Chosen – Volkmar)

  7. Lokidoki

    Fight on!

    There isn’t much to say really in this kind of sittuation.. I remember how i felt when a close family member went throught this. And i remember how much the pressence and support of others meant back then. So :

    Best wishes from Europe !

    Lokke- WH – RR80 – Karak Azgal – EU

  8. Dominic

    Hello from a fellow WAR player, here’s a video I just made (with some proper fights in it instead of that rubbish on the BO =).
    It’s all dedicated to Tink, as I was (and still am) wearing the colors!

    Keep on fighting Trish!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3YcbzbjVtKs

    Greetings from the EU.

  9. Jason

    My mates and I from PiiTA (both from Volkmar Destro and Badlands Order) will be changing our color scheme to pink and our last names. I hope she pulls through. Good luck to her, you, your family and friends. Volkmar will be supporting you :)

  10. Ubeltat of Gorfang

    Reading through here bought back memories of my mothers Battle with cancer. Seeing the unity of Destro and Order brought a tear to my eye. My thoughts are with you Tink. Even though I have left Warhammer, I still check back now and then to catch up and see whats goin on and new. You will OVERCOME this Tink.

  11. freewaydog

    I don’t know you guys & I am only a free trial player, just started now, but this story is heart wrenching! I hope Trish/Tink feels better! She must get rid of her cancer totally ‘cuz I say so! <3

  12. Labomba

    From one girl gamer to another, you go girl! <3

  13. David

    Hi this is Tink’s husband, (Mort in game). Thanks so much for the support. As I type this she is asleep after her fifth of six chemo treatments. I know this will cheer her up when she awakes.

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